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Some people instantly make us feel important. Some people instantly make us feel special.Some people light up a room just by walking in.
爱学习 We can't always define it, but some people have it: They're naturally charismatic.
Unfortunately, natural charisma quickly loses its impact. Familiarity breeds, well, familiarity.
But some people are remarkably charismatic: They build and maintain great relationships,consistently influence (in a good way) the people around them, consistently make people feelbetter about themselves--they're the kind of people everyone wants to be around...and wantsto be.
Fortunately we can, because being remarkably charismatic isn't about our level of success orour presentation skills or how we dress or the image we project--it's about what we do.
Here are the 10 habits of remarkably charismatic people:
1. They don't practice selective hearing.
爱学习 Some people--I guarantee you know people like this--are incapable of hearing anything saidby the people they feel are somehow beneath them.
Sure, you speak to them, but that particular falling tree doesn't make a sound in the forest,because there's no one actually listening.
Remarkably charismatic people listen closely to everyone, and they make all of us, regardlessof our position or social status or "level," feel like we have something in common with them.
Because we do: We're all people.
2. They listen way more than they talk.
爱学习 Ask questions. Maintain eye contact. Smile. Frown. Nod. Respond--not so much verbally, butnonverbally.
That's all it takes to show the other person they're important.
Then when you do speak, don't offer advice unless you're asked. Listening shows you care a lotmore than offering advice, because when you offer advice in most cases you make theconversation about you, not them.
爱学习 Don't believe me? Who is "Here's what I would do..." about: you or the other person?
爱学习 Only speak when you have something important to say--and always define important as whatmatters to the other person, not to you.
3. They put their stuff away.
Don't check your phone. Don't glance at your monitor. Don't focus on anything else, even fora moment.
爱学习 You can never connect with others if you're busy connecting with your stuff, too.
Give the gift of your full attention. That's a gift few people give. That gift alone will make otherswant to be around you and remember you.
4. They give before they receive--and often they never receive.
Never think about what you can get. Focus on what you can provide. Giving is the only way toestablish a real connection and relationship.
5. They don't act self-important…
The only people who are impressed by your stuffy, pretentious, self-important self are otherstuffy, pretentious, self-important people.
爱学习 The rest of us aren't impressed. We're irritated, put off, and uncomfortable.
And we hate when you walk in the room.
6. …Because they realize other people are more important.
爱学习 You already know what you know. You know your opinions. You know your perspectives andpoints of view.
That stuff isn't important, because it's already yours. You can't learn anything from yourself.
But you don't know what other people know, and everyone, no matter who they are, knowsthings you don't know.
爱学习 That makes them a lot more important than you--because they're people you can learn from.
爱学习 7. They shine the spotlight on others.
No one receives enough praise. No one. Tell people what they did well.
Wait, you say you don't know what they did well?
Shame on you--it's your job to know. It's your job to find out ahead of time.
爱学习 Not only will people appreciate your praise, they'll appreciate the fact you care enough to payattention to what they're doing.
爱学习 Then they'll feel a little more accomplished and a lot more important.
8. They choose their words.
爱学习 The words you use impact the attitude of others.
爱学习 For example, you don't have to go to a meeting; you get to go meet with other people. Youdon't have to create a presentation for a new client; you get to share cool stuff with otherpeople. You don't have to go to the gym; you get to work out and improve your health andfitness.
You don't have to interview job candidates; you get to select a great person to join yourteam.
We all want to associate with happy, enthusiastic, fulfilled people. The words you choose canhelp other people feel better about themselves--and make you feel better about yourself, too.
爱学习 9. They don't discuss the failings of others...
Granted, we all like hearing a little gossip. We all like hearing a little dirt.
The problem is, we don't necessarily like--and we definitely don't respect--the people who dishthat dirt.
爱学习 Don't laugh at other people. When you do, the people around you wonder if you sometimeslaugh at them.
爱学习 10. ...But they readily admit their failings.
Be humble. Share your screwups. Admit your mistakes. Be the cautionary tale. And laugh atyourself.
While you should never laugh at other people, you should always laugh at yourself.
People won't laugh at you. People will laugh laugh with you.
爱学习 They'll like you better for it--and they'll want to be around you a lot more.